Nobody Cares about Cuckolds

Dalrock links to the Christian Men’s Defense Network, which, among other things, is meant to serve as a resource for Christian men whose wives have been unfaithful.

When it happened to me, there was almost nothing out there to give me Christian guidance on what to do about it… Almost all the stuff I found was about a guy cheating, not the woman cheating.  This is despite the fact that female marital infidelity is a growing trend within the Christian community, one that the church refuses to deal with and likes to paper over.  In our society, women are almost as likely to cheat on their spouses as men, but there’s next to nothing out there to help a Christian man deal with that.

This is an instance of something I’ve observed before, and is at least equally true of the modern church: we consider women to be more valuable than men. I wrote:

Men are supposed to let women and children escape to safety while they lay down their lives. War-zone reporting focusses on the suffering of women while passing over the fact that all the men have been killed. When a woman is raped, it’s a calamity, but when a man is raped, it’s a joke. A woman losing her children is a nightmare, but a man losing his children is a routine matter of ‘justice’ in the divorce courts.

We can add that when a husband cheats, his wife is a victim; when a wife cheats, her husband is a loser.


5 thoughts on “Nobody Cares about Cuckolds

  1. We at Patriactionary link to them too, and salute bskillet for starting it up.

    However, something he has said, which I just learned, irks me a bit.

    Ah well. Different people have differences of opinion; doesn’t detract from his main mission, IMO.

  2. Will,

    Unfortunately that site is taking my statement out of context. The context is how social conservatives seem to have no desire to actually implement any sort of political agenda. This is why the fight against the anti-divorce MRM, often parroting feminist ideas and slogans as they do so.

    My statement was not aimed at traditional Christians (of which I am one) per se, but at TradCons/SoCons who fight against the very agendas they claim to b support, and who donate and volunteer for candidates who routinely stab them in the back.

  3. In regards to the blog title, I have always regarded a cuckolding woman as the “cuckold”, not the guy she is doing it to, though I guess the term works both ways.

    It is ironic that whether its the wife or the husband that cheats, its the man who is scum no matter what. A cuckolded man is utterly humiliated, so everyone looks away in embarrassment, because he obviously didn’t please her sexually or it wouldn’t have happened… and no one does the math that maybe the sex dried up because she was so verbally abusive and disrespectful towards him that it killed the sex.

    My heart goes out to the cuckolded man- it hurts like hell.

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