Law Defining Marriage Between a Man and Woman Ruled Unconstitutional by Federal Appeals Court

Not surprising…

A federal appeals court ruled today that the Defense of Marriage Act, which defines marriage as being between a man and a woman, is unconstitutional.

The Second Circuit Court of Appeals ruled in favor of 83-year old Edith Windsor, who challenged the law, claiming that it is discriminatory toward homosexuals.

“This law violated the fundamental American principle of fairness that we all cherish,” she said in a statement released today by the ACLU.

Windsor had contended that the law violated the 14th Amendment to the United States Constitution, which guarantees equal protection under the law.

The majority opinion against the Defense of Marriage Act was written by Republican Judge Dennis Jacobs, who was appointed in the 1990′s by George H.W. Bush.

“It is easy to conclude that homosexuals have suffered a history of discrimination,” he wrote. “Homosexuals are not in a position to adequately protect themselves from the discriminatory wishes of the majoritarian public. Even if preserving tradition were in itself an important goal, DOMA is not a means to achieve it.”

Judge Chester Straub, a Clinton appointee, dissented from the opinion.

“Courts should not intervene where there is a robust political debate because doing so poisons the political well, imposing a destructive anti-majoritarian constitutional ruling on a vigorous debate,” he wrote. “I believe it is for the American people to do so.”

So the Bush (Republican) appointee cited here opposed the legislation, while the Clinton (Democrat) appointee opposed courts interfering with what he rightly believes is a political matter.

Funny how that goes.

Abstracted From Reality: France Bans ‘Mother’ and ‘Father’

Ay Yi Yi!

Just when you thought things couldn’t get any stranger — or at least give a  glimpse of how strange they will soon become for us — France has decided to ban  the words “mother” and “father” in regard to the civil-legal treatment of  marriage. The European country’s proposed new law declares that “marriage is a  union of two people, of different or the same gender.”

The reason given by Christiane Taubira, France’s justice minister: ”Who is to  say that a heterosexual couple will bring a child up better than a homosexual  couple, that they will guarantee the best conditions for the child’s  development?” She then reassured critics of the proposed law, “What is  certain is that the interest of the child is a major preoccupation for the  government.”

If the law goes through, then all references to “mother” and “father” will be  erased from the civil code and replaced with the more abstract, cover-all,  cover-anything term “parents.”

From a Mistress, Advice for Wives

Reprehensible, but sensible…


Sarah Symonds, mistress of Lord Jeffrey Archer and Gordon Ramsay and author of a new book Having An Affair? A Handbook for the Other Woman, at the Gerard Lounge in Vancouver.
(Rafal Gerszak/Rafal Gerszak for The Globe and Mail)

The other woman, she says, is actually an enabler; she’s giving the man what he doesn’t get at home (on the most basic level, sex, but ego-stroking too in the form of her interest and attention), allowing him to continue, satisfied, in his marriage.

There are three types of men who cheat, she says. There’s the serial philanderer – usually rich, maybe famous – who may have a great marriage and a great wife, but isn’t satisfied with one of anything and can sweep women up with extravagant gifts and attention. Then there’s the man who wants a bit of activity on the side – and will promise the world to get it. Type three is the only one Ms. Symonds has any time for: the genuinely unhappily married man who falls in love with someone else. But if the guy doesn’t leave his wife in the first three to six months of the affair, she warns, he’s never leaving.

Beyond helping women get out of their affairs, Ms. Symonds says she can also help wives hold onto their husbands. Take a page out of the mistress’s handbook, she encourages. Be sexy. Pay attention to him.

“Mistresses make great wives,” she says.

“We all want to be feminists; we want to be equals. But guess what? … If you want to wear your ugly t-shirt and your jeans around the house and act like a man, that’s what you’re going to get. And he’s going to go out and find a pretty young mistress who is sexy. It’s just a fact.”

A decent, non-wealthy man, whose wife truly loves him (and shows that by such things as: taking care of her appearance and weight, and giving him all the sex he desires, and not nagging him or trying to boss him around), will never cheat on her.  Simple as that, folks…

Billionaire George Soros Engaged at 82

To some chick less than half his age.

Billionaire investor George Soros had a lot to celebrate on Saturday evening: his 82nd birthday and the engagement to his much younger girlfriend Tamiko Bolton.

Soros and Bolton, who met in the spring of 2008, formally announced their engagement at a party at Soros’ summer home in Southampton, New York attended by a small group of friends and relatives, according to a person familiar with the trader.

Soros proposed to Bolton, 40, a few weeks ago during a weekend visit to the Hamptons, a summer beachside colony on Long Island frequented by New York’s wealthy.

For Soros, this will be his third marriage and the second for Bolton, who was married briefly in the 1990s. Soros has five children from his previous marriages.

I’m sure she loves him, and isn’t after his wealth or anything…

Mississippi Church Refuses to Marry Black Couple

Pastor caves to members who object, for some reason, to regular adherents getting married in their church; marries them elsewhere.

A Mississippi couple says the church where they planned to get married turned them away because they are black.

Charles and Te’Andrea Wilson say they had set the date and mailed invitations, but the day before their wedding they got bad news from the pastor of predominantly white First Baptist Church of Crystal Springs: Some members of the church complained about the black couple having a wedding there.

The Wilsons, who live in nearby Jackson, said they attend the church regularly although they are not members.

Pastor Stan Weatherford told WLBT TV in Jackson he was surprised when a small number of church members opposed holding the wedding at the church.

“This had never been done before here, so it was setting a new precedent, and there are those who reacted to that because of that,” Weatherford said.

Weatherford performed the July 21 ceremony at another church.

“I didn’t want to have a controversy within the church, and I didn’t want a controversy to affect the wedding of Charles and Te’Andrea. I wanted to make sure their wedding day was a special day,” Weatherford said.

WLBT reported that church officials now say they welcome any race. They plan to hold internal meetings on how to move forward.

If I were either of that couple, I’d leave that church, regardless of their now proclaiming they welcome any race.  Why worship where you aren’t welcome?

Oh, and to the good white folks in First Baptist Church of Crystal Springs who for some reason thought it wise to object to their marriage: congratulations; the entire world now knows about you, and more to the point, you may have won your ‘battle’, but you lost the ‘war’, what with your church’s new stated policy of welcoming all.  All you did was make yourselves and your church look bad, but you’ve ensured that you’ll never be able to block such a marriage again.  Bigoted members of First Baptist Church of Crystal Springs: you’re as stupid as your fellow bigoted Baptists at Gulnare Free Will Baptist Church.

Paternity Test Throws Doubt into Highly-Publicized ‘Marriage Fraud’ Deportation

Typical

It was the most highly-publicized case of “marriage fraud” in recent memory: a  Canadian woman abandoned by her Guinean husband only a month after he arrived in  this country, the revelation that he had previously fathered a child in Africa,  and his subsequent deportation for not declaring the existence of a dependent.  But paternity tests may now show that the so-called fraudster was in fact not  the child’s father — and that the alleged cad may have been exiled from his new  life without good reason.

New Porn Niche: Fantasies About Happy Married Sex

According to Rollo Tomassi (hat tip: Vox Day), a new niche in porn has arisen, fantasizing about normal, married, heterosexual relations:

one of the fasest growing sexual fetish (if that’s the proper term) porn sites and this is, believe it or not, married sex. No, I don’t mean cheating housewives (that’s been done to death), but actual married sex between couples that is in fact well done and pretty hot. I wont post the link, but you can Google Housewives 1 on 1 or the like and see what I mean. In each fantasy scenario the husband’s wife (all porn star hot) seduces him with a combination of lingerie, dirty talking, and at least a pretty convincing display of actual desire/lust/passion for having sex with him. After watching the trailer videos I couldn’t help but think that the reason for this becoming such a popular genre of porn is due to an unbelievability that in all rights should be believable, if not desirable. How pathetic a statement is it to think that within all of our over eroticizing society that we should come full circle and have made hot, married sex into sexual niche fantasy?

Sad indeed, that what, IMO, should ideally be a reality at least some significant portion of the time for most married men – hot, passionate, wife-initiated sex - is so rare enough, that money can be made in porn exploiting men’s desire for such.

A Woman’s Desire for Children Is a Diagnostic Tool

The Thinking Housewife talks about married couples who choose not to have children.

There’s a personal aspect to this. Lots of women say (and no doubt believe) that they aren’t interested in having children, until they find a guy they’re enthusiastic about. The pretence (and even the self-deceptive acceptance of your own pretence) is a normal part of relationship negotiation—in particular, a woman doesn’t want to seem too eager. But if you’re married and your wife still doesn’t want to have your children, then she just doesn’t love you.

The Case for Christian Pre-Nups

Great blog post over at the Christian Men’s Defense Network.

A bit of history:  Following the Babylonian captivity, it became common practice that Jewish males had to give their brides a pre-nuptial agreement, called a ketubah.  This tradition is still carried on within Orthodox Judaism.  The purpose of this agreement was to define the requirements for the marriage, and to dictate the minimum support a Jewish man was required to pay his ex-wife in the case of a frivolous divorce (she would get nothing in the case of adultery–in fact, she would be stoned to death).  As such, this dis-incentivized the Jewish man from divorcing his wife for just any old reason:  He would still have to support her, without his household being able to profit from her labor.  This is illustrative of how pre-nuptial agreements worked throughout history.

Married People Don’t Interact with Singles

Do married people know any single people?

Do married people know any single people?  Why does it seem like once people get married, they’re sucked into a “young marrieds” vortex

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It seems like young marrieds are just relieved that they actually found someone worth marrying, and now that their task has been completed, everyone else is off their radar.  And older marrieds, particularly in the church, have social lives that almost exclusively revolve around socializing with other married couples.

Marriage for companionship

Once people get married, they tend to drop off the face of the planet since 92% of their energy is now being directed into their spouse.  (Make that 99.999% if kids are in the picture.)  So there go all of your married friends.  Then, all of your single friends tend to be desperate, and so if one of your friends is so fortunate as to find someone to date, the special someone eats up the lion’s share of your unmarried friend’s time.  That leaves you with the least sexually attractive friends left in your group, but even those people may have other obligations eating up their time.  Sometimes it’s work, sometimes it’s church or other organizations, sometimes it’s being the free babysitter for all of your married friends’ kids, but I’ve found that often in the case of women, their families eat up their time.  If a girl lives in the same town as her parents, she may spend a lot of time with them.  If a girl lives WITH her parents, you’ll see her once a month, tops.

Additionally, you can’t be friends with a member of the opposite sex.  You can’t be friends with a married person of the opposite sex, because that person’s spouse will become jealous.

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So, ultimately, the only possible recourse for continuous companionship is marriage.

Asians Increasingly Marrying Other Asians

Having read Skarphedin’s post on inter-racial dating and marriage, this is no surprise:

Asian-Americans still have one of the highest interracial marriage rates in the country, with 28 percent of newlyweds choosing a non-Asian spouse in 2010, according to census data. But a surge in immigration from Asia over the last three decades has greatly increased the number of eligible bachelors and bachelorettes, giving young people many more options among Asian-Americans. It has also inspired a resurgence of interest in language and ancestral traditions among some newlyweds.

 More diversity often means more segregation.