‘Bishop’ T.D. Jakes’ daughter is divorcing.
Sarah D. Henson, daughter of Bishop T.D. Jakes, recently announced that she is divorcing her NFL linebacker husband Robert Henson after four years. On her personal website, the bishop’s daughter asked for prayer while explaining that her marriage was ending.
Henson, who reportedly leads the Women’s Ministry at The Potter’s House in Dallas, spoke about building her ministry on being a good wife and trying to make things work before ultimately deciding to go through with a divorce.
“I have built my ministry and identity around being the best wife and a mother I can be. For quite sometime I have tried to steer through some serious troubles at home,” Henson wrote on her personal website, http://www.sarahdhenson.com. “As much as I wanted my marriage to last, it cannot.”
While Henson admitted that she received counseling and prayed about her situation, she seemed firm in her decision to end the marriage. The bishop’s 24-year-old daughter said she felt her reason for divorcing her husband was biblical.
“After professional counseling, and prayerful consideration I have decided to end my four-year marriage,” Henson wrote. “There are biblical grounds supporting this decision and I have attempted every other recourse but after multiple infractions over the course of the union, and for my personal safety and that of my children, I have come to this painful decision.”
One blog’s comment:
We really wish that the church, of all examples in the world, could show an example of truly keeping it together. We know that pastors, bishops, evangelists, choir directors, pastor’s wives and even the the pastor’s children are human. It just kills us to see the big show of events they put on for these weddings and the leaders of the church can not keep the home in tact. Its a crying shame and we are saddened by it yet frustrated as well.
Indeed, why can’t they keep it together?
I know a family where the wife, whose husband cheated on her and left her to live with his mistress for a month, took him back; they’d had four kids together, and she wasn’t throwing it all away… They had several happy, faithful years together, after that.
Hmmm. Tough one, Will.
Initially, I thought that this had the sound of a frivolous divorce, to it.. However after reading the whole thing, it would appear that she is implying that the husband has been violent toward her and the kids.
If this is indeed true, then the children should be removed from any violent situation, obviously.
We just don’t know the full story here, really. Would like to know what the husband thinks.
“I know a family where the wife, whose husband cheated on her and left her to live with his mistress for a month, took him back;”
,See, I could never do that, Will. Perhaps I am just not that Christian enough.. I dunno.
I was terribly hurt when my first husband cheated on my.. In fact I just could not believe it, and was like a Zombie for a time..
It is a terrible form of betrayal. How can a person trust their spouse ever again.?
Living with a mistress for a month? Even worse..
That deep sexual and spiritual bond between husband and wife has been broken. Sacred vows trampled underfoot.
I don’t think that the sex between them could ever be the same again(assuming they had a good sex life in the first place) I know if it were me, the thought of him being with another woman and sharing such intimacies would just break my heart and crush my soul.
I just don’t know how I could live with that. Sure, as a Christian I KNOW I should try.. But I don’t in all honesty think that I could..
It would constantly be on my mind..Driving me mad. He and she together.. Would he be comparing her with me when we were making love? Too painful.. Too distressing..
When We Two Parted ….. Lord Byron.
1
WHEN we two parted
In silence and tears,
Half broken-hearted
To sever for years,
Pale grew thy cheek and cold,
Colder thy kiss;
Truly that hour foretold
Sorrow to this.
2
The dew of the morning
Sunk chill on my brow —
It felt like the warning
Of what I feel now.
Thy vows are all broken,
And light is thy fame:
I hear thy name spoken,
And share in its shame.
3
They name thee before me,
A knell to mine ear;
A shudder comes o’er me —
Why wert thou so dear?
They know not I knew thee,
Who knew thee too well: —
Long, long shall I rue thee,
Too deeply to tell.
4
In secret we met —
In silence I grieve,
That thy heart could forget,
Thy spirit deceive.
If I should meet thee
After long years,
How should I greet thee? —
With silence and tears.
@ Kathy: I’m not saying a spouse is obligated, by any means, to forgive a husband or wife who cheats on her or him – but if a spouse chooses to do so, they do well, and God is gracious, and can work things for good.
As for the situation of Sarah D. Henson, I didn’t read violence was an issue – maybe it was, maybe it wasn’t – but I assumed infidelity was…
It was just this comment that gave me the impression that there may have been some violence, Will. I may have misunderstood..
“this decision and I have attempted every other recourse but after multiple infractions over the course of the union, and for my personal safety and that of my children, I have come to this painful decision.”
With regards to cheating spouses, Will, just a few thoughts..
I think that basically women fall into two categories.
Those who marry primarily for love and those who marry for financial security, and to have children first and foremost..
Now a woman who married a man for the second reason, a man with money and with whom she had children, may find it easier to turn a blind eye to infidelity. She is already getting what she wanted out of the marriage , and as long as it coninues that way she is happy. Sex is no big deal for her..
Then there are the women who married because they were head over heels in love with the guy. Sex IS a big deal for her. The more she has sex with her husband the deeper she bonds with him. (orgasm releases oxytocin in the woman)
I am in that category.. And would be devastated, if my husband were to cheat on me, such is our deep physical and spiritual connection.
My second husband had no money and just a fledgling business when we first met ( and clicked). He was smart and engaging, though, with a sense of humour and a lovely smile. He was a good decent and honest man.. Still is. His openness and lack of false bravado and BS, was a breath of fresh air. (especially since my first husband had been a chronic gambler which he kept from me before we married.)
Now, I would prefer the business collapse, and we lose the house, than he ever cheat on me.. And that’s the truth.
Losing material things means nothing to me in comparison to love and fidelity..
I could forgive, (as a Christian) but I could never forget.. The relationship would never be the same again.. It would be soiled..
Needless to say there would be other women who could forgive and forget. But I would wager that these women never put love and sex high on the agenda, and so, were not deeply bonded to their husbands, spiritually and physically, in the first place.
Sadly there are many women that I know of, who do not place a high priority on conjugal relations.. More’s the pity. There would be less break-ups as a result, if they did, and less chance of their husband’s cheating on them, too.
Men are easy to please. (unlike many women)
A man wants sex, love, sex, a good home cooked meal, when he arrives home from work, sex, a couple of beers and some amiable company… And sex!
I am sure in the case of the woman I know that I was discussing, that she married him for love and not for security and children, and was hurt by his cheating, but decided to forgive him and move on.
God is able to heal, even the worst kind of betrayal.
True, Will.
However, there must have been something lacking in that marriage for the husband to move in with the mistress for a WHOLE month in the first place.. (this was not a quick fling obviously ) Either emotional or sexual needs were more likely not being met, here.
Oh, absolutely, I’m sure that must have been the case. She had gotten fairly chubby, for one thing. As for others, I can only speculate, but yes, a man who is having his needs taken care of by a cheerful, loving wife will not look elsewhere to get them taken care of.
Will, I beg to differ with this statement “a man who is having his needs taken care of by a cheerful, loving wife will not look elsewhere to get them taken care of” men who do not fear God are naturally DOGS! regardless of how perfect the wife is
Even men who fear the Lord are by nature dogs – as are women. But not all non-Christians cheat on their spouses; there must be a reason why… Non-Christians can have happy marriages, too, just as Christians can have unhappy ones, unfortunately.
Adultery and infidelity are a decision and the responsibility for that decision rests with the individual that chooses to be unfaithful, period. The lack resides within the person that decides to fill a personal void with adultery and infidelity.
“Adultery and infidelity are a decision and the responsibility for that decision rests with the individual that chooses to be unfaithful, period.”
Of course; I never suggested otherwise.
What I said, and repeat, is that how one responds to such an occurrence, is a matter of choice; the ball is in the court of the victim.
Now, if one chooses a spouse wisely, one might be able to at least screen out the high-risk types, like popular professional athletes…
“The lack resides within the person that decides to fill a personal void with adultery and infidelity.”
Only, always?
You really think that if a spouse is tempted to cheat, it’s only due to something wrong with him or her, and not possibly in response to lack of physical and emotional affection, and nagging, from the other spouse?
IOW, the person who cheats only ever does so out of a personal deficiency, and never at all due to feeling unloved / unappreciated by the other spouse? The other spouse is always pure, innocent, spotless, blameless, like Christ?
If you believe that, you’re incredibly naive and misguided.