The other woman, she says, is actually an enabler; she’s giving the man what he doesn’t get at home (on the most basic level, sex, but ego-stroking too in the form of her interest and attention), allowing him to continue, satisfied, in his marriage.
There are three types of men who cheat, she says. There’s the serial philanderer – usually rich, maybe famous – who may have a great marriage and a great wife, but isn’t satisfied with one of anything and can sweep women up with extravagant gifts and attention. Then there’s the man who wants a bit of activity on the side – and will promise the world to get it. Type three is the only one Ms. Symonds has any time for: the genuinely unhappily married man who falls in love with someone else. But if the guy doesn’t leave his wife in the first three to six months of the affair, she warns, he’s never leaving.
Beyond helping women get out of their affairs, Ms. Symonds says she can also help wives hold onto their husbands. Take a page out of the mistress’s handbook, she encourages. Be sexy. Pay attention to him.
“Mistresses make great wives,” she says.
“We all want to be feminists; we want to be equals. But guess what? … If you want to wear your ugly t-shirt and your jeans around the house and act like a man, that’s what you’re going to get. And he’s going to go out and find a pretty young mistress who is sexy. It’s just a fact.”
A decent, non-wealthy man, whose wife truly loves him (and shows that by such things as: taking care of her appearance and weight, and giving him all the sex he desires, and not nagging him or trying to boss him around), will never cheat on her. Simple as that, folks…