When it happened to me, there was almost nothing out there to give me Christian guidance on what to do about it… Almost all the stuff I found was about a guy cheating, not the woman cheating. This is despite the fact that female marital infidelity is a growing trend within the Christian community, one that the church refuses to deal with and likes to paper over. In our society, women are almost as likely to cheat on their spouses as men, but there’s next to nothing out there to help a Christian man deal with that.
This is an instance of something I’ve observed before, and is at least equally true of the modern church: we consider women to be more valuable than men. I wrote:
Men are supposed to let women and children escape to safety while they lay down their lives. War-zone reporting focusses on the suffering of women while passing over the fact that all the men have been killed. When a woman is raped, it’s a calamity, but when a man is raped, it’s a joke. A woman losing her children is a nightmare, but a man losing his children is a routine matter of ‘justice’ in the divorce courts.
We can add that when a husband cheats, his wife is a victim; when a wife cheats, her husband is a loser.